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Monday Mentions: Character Jobs, Author Parents, & Hitting the Wall

I have a lot to share this week. There’s been a lot out there the last week.

First, a post by Jami Gold on the perfect job for our characters. She talks about if our stories require a certain profession. Certain mystery/suspense series will, they might follow a private detective or cop. Or a series might focus around firefighters(my Flames series), or some other profession. She also lists ways to tie the career into the story, since it shouldn’t just be a footnote. She also included a few links for career lists and even career placement tests. I haven’t checked all these out, although I did bookmark a site for the tests. Most of the time, my characters tell me what they do, but not always.

Then, Kristen Lamb posted about Common Core and Vegan Zombies. and the follow-up to it: Being an author parent. These aren’t writing posts, but they really stuck with me. Some of you who have been following me for a while, may know about my daughter. She was a late talker, a late walker. Really, pretty much a late everything. We had her in Early Intervention when she was 2. She wasn’t even saying about half a dozen words then. By the time she aged out of the 0-3 program(so a year later), she was saying about 2 dozen words, and short sentences. Another year later, and she didn’t stop talking. At 4, she started in the pre-k program through our school. She was still getting some services, for her speech as well as fine and gross motor skills.

Part of these “delays” I still think are just her personality. She’s quiet, likes to sit and read/draw/do puzzles. She’s just like me. One of her teachers’ concerns during her first year in Pre-K is that she didn’t interact with other kids. Again, she ‘s like me. I’m not a social person. After a lot of weighing options and going back and forth, we decided to keep her back a year. Along with the social issues, she had a late Summer birthday and was one of the youngest/smallest in her class. And even though I doubted the decision at times, it was probably the best decision we made. She really blossomed the next year. She’s still quiet now in Kindergarten, but she does interact with the other kids. She’ll never be a social butterfly I’m sure, but she’s extremely advanced in her reading, knows all the math skills, and loves going to school. But, she doesn’t understand figurative language. She takes everything literally. But, her imagination is crazy. She’s always coming up with little stories. And I love it.

Her brother, on the other hand, is very active. He hardly sits still, is always moving around(I swear, he’s barely even still when he’s sleeping).  He’s not old enough for pre-k yet, but I doubt we’ll have the same experience there. He didn’t have the same issues with talking(even though my MIL worried simply b/c he wasn’t talking as clearly as her niece’s twins who were just a couple months older). He might not sit for long with a book or puzzle, but he’s already trying to figure out how things work. He’s a lot more like his dad. I don’t know how this will translate to his school experience, but I know I want to encourage both types of learning.

Back to the writing posts, Ava Jae posted about 7 Signs You Should Cut Your Prologue. I have written some in first drafts, but I don’t think I have any in current drafts.

Elizabeth Spann Craig wrote about Passage of Time and Transitions. This is something I tend to struggle with. I feel like I either write too many of the little details, or there’s not enough. Trying to find that middle ground isn’t always easy.

And Kait Nolan wrote about hitting The Wall and Letting Go of the Flail. I usually hit that wall when I’m reading over the first draft and go “what the hell did I write? this sucks.” Then, I scrap it and start all over. Sometimes this is a good thing. I think if I would have just tried to revise the first version of Flames of Redemption, I would have gotten mired down. But, you can only rewrite so many times. Sometimes you have to just put in the work with what you have or you never get anywhere.

Family Friday: And He’s Off!

I guess it’s official now. I have a toddler. Nathaniel has been taking a few steps here and there since his birthday. But, it has only been when he feels like it, which is usually when he thinks I’m not watching. As soon as I turn to look at him he’ll sit down and start crawling. Then, on Monday he was on the other side of the living room, and he let go of what he was holding onto and started walking toward me. I had just enough time to take a picture before he sat back down.

Walking over to Mommy

Since then, there hasn’t been any stopping him. I’d say he’s walking at least half the time now and probably starting to do it more than crawling. I was even able to get a video of him walking by bribing him with a teddy graham cookie. He hasn’t needed any incentive since then though. I know this means he will be getting into even more(like he wasn’t all ready into everything), but still I’m happy that he didn’t wait until he was almost 17 months old like his sister. She watched everything and did not even try to walk until she knew she could do it. Pretty much from the time he was born, we knew he would be different. And he hasn’t proven us wrong yet.

Silly Sally

Silly Sally went to town
Waking backwards,
Upside down.

On the way she met a pig,
A silly pig,
They danced a jig.

Silly Sally went to town,
Dancing backwards,
Upside down.
– “Silly Sally” by Audrey Wood

Three year olds and their love of repetition. You gotta love it, right? Or I could just be losing my mind. This is the book we’ve had to read every night at bedtime during this last week. And I very well could be losing my mind since I’ve found myself reciting the words to it during the day. Still on the fence about whether it’s better than reading The Cat in the Hat, Fox in Socks, or Green Eggs and Ham every night(her other favorites).

For the parents out there, are there any books your kids wanted to read over and over(and over and over and…)? Are you ever able to convince them to read something else or just have to go with the flow? Are there any books you remember wanting to read over and over as a kid?

Steps to Walking

It’s hard to believe that just a month ago I was worried because Nathan was not quite crawling at almost 9 months. He was going backward but had not figured out how to move forward yet. And it seemed that all the other babies his age were crawling and starting to cruise along furniture. I remember feeling that Hayleigh was so far behind the other kids her age and how stressful that was for me and was determined not to go through that again. Apparently not determined enough though because by the end of May, I was feeling like he was the only nine month old(or almost) that wasn’t crawling.
Then, just before Memorial Day, we were at a friend’s house and he took his first forward crawling “steps”. After that, there was no stopping him. The next day, he was pulling up to his knees and the day after that, he started to occasionally pull to his feet.
When he would get to his feet, he would always get upset. We’re still not sure if it was because he didn’t know how to move or because he forgot how to get back down. But, we don’t have that problem anymore. He is now cruising along furniture, gates, and pretty much anything he can hold on to.
I did not think I would have too much to worry about when he became mobile. After all, when his sister was at that stage, she did not give us too many problems. We just had to tell her no a few times and she learned what not to touch or get into. What I forgot though is that from the time of conception, these two have been just about exact opposites. She was a laid back baby and still is for the most part, except for thinking she’s three going on thirteen(her latest thing is “okay, if you say so”, each syllable full of attitude). He spends most of his day in “baby jail” (aka: his playpen), because he keeps trying to play with things, particularly the cords behind the tv, that I keep removing him from and trying to redirect him. And he just usually laughs at me when I tell him no. I can see I’m going to have my hands full with this one. And I’m sure he’ll be walking(and running) earlier than his sister since she didn’t take her first solo steps until 16.5 months.


The day after he started crawling. Going after his sister’s toolbox because she was not home.


pulling up to his knees on the gate


getting to his feet so he can pester his sister


pulling up to stand in the playpen


getting ready to start cruising


like I said, he’ll pull up on anything even if it’s not too sturdy.

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